When mentioning the world ‘’lube’’, many people may think about something silly like oiled up wrestlers or a weird porn set. As of such, using lube has become quite of a taboo for some people among us. This has resulted in the fact that both men and women are sometimes hesitant to use lube while having sex. Nevertheless, it is, in fact, one of the best things you can have in your bedroom. Whether it’s for sex or solo play, the usage of lube brings along a number of benefits.
But why do people not seem to know about these benefits? And why are people so hesitant to use lube whether it’s for masturbation or sex? Throughout this article, Luvkis will have a closer look at several common misconceptions surrounding the usage of lube. Also, we’ll cover its benefits and show why it actually is an amazing and must-have item for in your bedroom.
Should I use lube?
Using lube might not be a necessity, but it surely will spice up your sex life. Wonder why? Well, the usage of lube simply makes things feel a lot more comfortable and enjoyable down there. Naturally, the main purpose of using lube is to add slickness. As of such, it can be used for external stimulation before your natural lubrication arrives. Also, some women simply feel dry time to time. As a result, they can not enjoy comfortable sex. Lube offers a great solution for women who occasionally have difficulties getting wet.
Besides having smooth sex, lube can be used for a number of different purposes. Naturally, it can be used for sexual intercourse itself, however, it can also be used for masturbation, oral sex, or for inserting a menstrual cup or Kegel Balls. Lube can be used in any situation where you think it would make things feel more comfortable and enjoyable.
Although the usage of lube is optional in most cases, there is one scenario in which lubing up really is a necessity – anal play. The anus, unlike your mouth or vagina, will not lubricate itself in a natural manner. Therefore, it is difficult to insert something into your anus without using lubrication. Not only will this feel uncomfortable, it may even cause minor tears inside of your anus that leave you vulnerable to infections. Therefore, it certainly is a must to apply lube if you wish to engage in anal play.
Is the usage of lube unnatural?
There are many women who believe that the usage of lube is unnatural. Some even believe that needing lube for comfortable vaginal sex means that there is something wrong with them. There can be several reasons for a women why she (occasionally) can not get wet. This is, however, nothing to worry about as it happens to all of us from time to time.
Understanding natural lubrication, or simply said ‘’getting wet’’, is pretty simply and straight forward. When a woman gets aroused, the walls of her vagina start to dispense a natural lubrication that makes the anticipated penetration more smooth and comfortable. The amount of natural lubricated produced differs every time and is even different per person.
Some women have difficulties getting wet. In most cases, a lack of arousal will be the reason. This can often be easily solved by extending the foreplay. However, there can also be other reasons to why a woman can’t get wet. The menopause can, for example, be a cause of vaginal dryness and certain medicines can affect the production of natural lubrication as well.
”It is normal if you can not get wet from time to time. Every woman has experienced this before”
When engaging in sex, it is a good idea to take your time and wait until you are fully aroused. Not only does this make sexual intercourse more smooth and comfortable, it also simply is way more fun to play around a bit before having sex. Nevertheless, our body does not always react in the way we want it too. So simply playing around does not necessarily mean that you will get wet. In fact, it is possible to be aroused but still be dry. Getting wet (or not) does not solely depend on your state of mind.
If you find yourself in the situation in which you are aroused but simply can not get wet, there are several things you could try. Oral sex, for instance, can give a woman the extra thrill (and moist) needed to produce natural lubricant on her own. However, there is one method for clitoral stimulation that is better than anything else – lube!
How to use lube?
Chances are big that you have not used lube before and you might not be 100% certain on how to use it. Lucky for you, using lube is no rocket science. In fact, it’s far from that. Applying lube is nothing more than squirting some on your hand, applying it to your penis or vagina, and you’re done. The only thing you have to keep in mind is to apply the right type and right amount. After all, using too much lube will make everything a little bit messy. The right amount depends on the situation however, as a general rule of thumb, it’s best to start off with a little squeeze and work your way up from there if more is needed.
Applying the lube itself can either be done straight onto your penis or vagina, or first onto your fingertips after which you can gently rub it around. Additionally, you can apply lube onto your sex toys such as dildos or a vibrator. Doing so prevents them from tearing and breaking. Just make sure you cover the entire body of your sex toy in lube. Not only will this protect the toy itself, it will also make your experience feel a whole lot better.
Different types of lube
Besides considering the right amount, it is essential to use the right type of lube. Although some of us might be tempted to use anything slippery as lubricant, it has to be understood that this is not a good idea – at all! Take baby oil for example. It’s slippery, smoothing, and smells good. Although it’s tempting to use it as a lube, this oil has not been designed for internal usage nor does it have the natural body Ph. As of such, it’s in fact dangerous to use baby oil as vaginal lube.
Another popular natural oil often used in the bedroom is coconut oil. Although it might add a delicious smell to your bedroom, it is essential to never apply it as a lubricant on a condom. Coconut oil is oil based and just as all other oil-based lubes, it will degrade your condom. As a result, the effectiveness of a condom drops significantly. This means that you will no longer be fully protected against STIs or unplanned pregnancy.
As the examples above show us, it is never a good idea to use any oil of lotion as vaginal lubricant unless it has been specifically designed for this. When you buy sex lubricants, there is, however, still one thing you want to keep in mind. It is essential that your lube is water based as these won’t affect the effectiveness of your condom. Everybody who knows how to use a condom knows the dangers of oil based lubes.
”remember to always use water-based lubes for having intercourse”
Water-based lubricants are considered to be the most moist type of lube on the market. This will automatically treat you to the most comfortable experience. Added to that, they are hypoallergenic which is a great advantage as you will apply it to your most sensitive parts. Although there are some lubes out there with special features such as ‘’cooling’’ or ‘’warming’’, it always is the best idea to pick the most basic ones. These are the safest and least likely to include some ingredients that may affect your body or condom.
Besides water- and oil-based lubes, there also are silicone based lubes. This type of lube has its advantages and disadvantages. Its main advantage is the fact that it won’t observe that easily into your body. As a result, it will last much longer. Because of this reason, silicone lube is very popular for anal play. The down side of silicone lube is, however, the fact that they can not be used with silicone sex toys. When you apply silicone lube to a silicone sex toy, the chemical reaction between both silicons may lead to your sex toy being broken. Because of this, it’s always the best idea to stay at the safe side and choose water-based lubes over silicone- and oil-based variants.